I am always amazed at the responses kids get away with these days. The ever popular "I don't know" never was acceptable. My Dad would ask, "When will you know?" and I was not excused until I provided an appropriate answer. The lack of accountability in this world is overwhelming and should be enforced. Set the expectation and follow thru if it's not met. I rate this above manners and common sense. Always affirm a job well done with something that was not mentioned nor expected. Parents too often use threats as incentive to do what is expected.
I agree. Often kids will wait parents out when asked a question. They will say "I don't know" to a "What do you think...?" question. If asked, "What's the square root of 431?" it's very appropriate for a seven-year old to respond, "I dunno."
But, when asked, "Why didn't you clean your room as I asked?" "I don't know doesn't cut it." "I didn't want to," "I forgot," "I was hoping you'd forget," are all appropriate and force the child to become metacognitive.
Once young people start to think about their thinking, they will start to think before they act and think about the consequences to their actions.
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