I've got two girls, Riley (17) and Grace (12), and I wonder how life in our house would be different had their birth order been reversed. See, now that Riley is seventeen, she is in her room whenever she's at home. She rarely comes out to spend time with us, and when se force her to, it's easy to tell she's there out of obligation and secretly wondering, When can I get back in my room?
Grace is very different than her sister. She's always been very emotional, but she's also been closer with family. Yet, recently, I find her stashed away in her room on her phone watching old episodes of Glee or FaceTiming friends. Although Riley has never been as family-oriented as her little sister, when she was twelve, she was out with us spending time with family (not out of obligation).
I'm thinking that Grace is taking after her sister. She sees that's what cool, teenage, big sisters do, so why not follow suit?
Yet, had Grace been first born, I think by the time she was seventeen, she'd have been spending more time with family than her seventeen-year old sister is now. And, although Riley is less of a family-girl, she would have seen her cool, teenage, big sister spending time with us, and probably followed suit...even when she turned seventeen herself.
Then again, maybe it's just the wishful thinking of a dad who misses spending time with his daughters and who longs for the days when they wanted to be part of the family landscape.
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